Everyday we strive to walk together towards God. Our new goal is to encourage other couples to do the same. We have had this passion for couples ministry for years and God has opened up various doors including this one.
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Purity is Better
God has a blueprint - the Word of God. It tells us what the perfect building will look like. He gives this precious plan to us and as we construct our lives accordingly, but there will be setbacks and times when we try to alter His masterpiece. In the end, He will compare His plan for your life to what you have done with what He gave you.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
Keeping yourself pure of sexual exploits for your spouse is a noble thing. Even if you have given away your virginity, or it was stolen from you, God can re-new you for His purposes. God delights in making people new! He can still carry out the plan for your life!
II Corinthians 5:17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
Most of us know that maintaining virginity and celibacy equals purity when one is single, but what does it look like in marriage? The bible speaks of keeping the marriage bed pure. Pure physically, mentally and sexually. Any perversion or accessories to God's original blueprint are not what He is building. Remember, marriage is to represent Christ and His Church. He washes her. He covers her. He presents her without spot or wrinkle.
Ephesians 5:25-27 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.
I recently had a conversation with several women who shared their stories. We chatted about women addicted to porn and those with issues of masturbation in their marriages. This is hard. This is real. There should be nothing else needed or required by you to fulfill your sexual needs beyond the marriage bed with your husband. What happens in your bedroom is personal and private bringing other things and people within those sacred areas can prove to be a hinderance to what God has originally intended in the blueprint.
Sometimes the issues that affect a healthy sex life in marriage are hidden in our pasts. A vast majority of women have had some sexual encounter by their teen years that will resurface during marriage. This can affect your marriage later whether is it a disease history, promiscuity, rape, incest or abuse of any kind. This is why pre-marital counseling can be so helpful to women. In marriage, you dedicate your body to your spouse. It is only fair that you both know what has happened in the past so that you can move into the future without fear.
Just a few testimonies form women I have spoken with in the past week.
One woman had been abused by a man close to her and was already dealing with that pain when another man approached her sister. In an effort to protect her younger sister from rape, she offered herself instead out of desperation. Today she is married and tells others her story.
Another woman lives with the memory of a rape that she hid because she was threatened. He told her that he would rape her sister if she told. However, today she is married to her Boaz, a caring man who treats her with dignity.
Two women with sex issues prior to marriage have decided to combine their testimonies as a stepping stone into a ministry for other women.
No matter what has happened to you in the past, put God in control of your future. He alone can bring forgiveness, restoration and reconciliation in your relationship. If you are in need of counseling, I can do my best to put you in touch with a christian counselor in your area. Get the help you need to free yourself from bondage in any form and prepare for the calling that the Lord has already placed within you! He makes all things (even marriage) BETTER! You are His architect. Stick to the design.
Do not worry about tomorrow. Do not be anxious about anything. One day at a time. These are the things that we read in the Bible about worry. As we have been preparing for this bone marrow transplant, we have experienced possibly every single emotion! A little bit of fear, sadness, excitement, anxiety and joy. It is all happening - some of them simultaneously. Nothing rocks your life quite like the expectation of hope that a transplant brings, along with the lack of control and concern that it may not actually be all you hoped.
As I sat in the apartment that I was blessed to have close to the hospital, I am struck with the thought that I was also in need of a transplant, like my husband. His is physical, but mine is emotional. All of the people in this building are here because they are either a transplant patient or a transplant patient's caregiver. What a blessing to make such a place available! I have learned even more about transplants lately as you can imagine. A transplant of…
It is not often discussed, but it should be. People regret things in their marriages - their choice of a spouse, words spoken in haste, moments of poor decision-making. How can we live a life that does not carry marriage regret?
Some would say that it is already too late to have a regret-free relationship. There have already been too many mistakes, do-overs and apologies. We would disagree. You see, in the same way that God forgives those who ask and tosses our wrongs into the sea of forgetfulness, our marriages can mirror that kind of grace.
After sixteen years of marriage, we have learned that as a couple you have to make the decision not to live in the land of regret. Don't go there every time you have a disagreement. Some people feel that if they had another chance at marriage, their regrets would be less. So, they start over. Smh..... So now, they are making a whole other set of regrets with a new person and the cycle continues!
On Friday, August 18, 2017 Maurice and I went to see a doctor about his persistent back pain. We had no clue that this visit would turn into a weekend-long nightmare admission to the hospital in the coronary care unit. This month, the W.I.N. ladies have been studying meekness and how to apply and practice it in everyday life. Well....what a challenge for me as a wife this was going to turn out to be!
First they drew tons of blood and samples of every other specimen that a body can produce. Then came all the X-rays, MRIs and CT scans. Lastly was the bone biopsy. This was when I almost lost it.... Our boys were being tossed from house to house and neither of us were working at all. This was the worst medical situation that we ever experienced in our marriage of 16 years. We were both sleep deprived and emotionally spent, yet, we had to simply trust God and wait for what the future held for us. I am a nurse as many of you know, so how come I did not see this coming? I knew that God was a…