Fostering Oneness in Marriage



Your marriage matters. How you represent yourself as a couple to others is important. Sometimes you may forget that you are a unit with your spouse. They are an extension of you and vice versa. When you mess up this reflects on them, when they do, it is yours to own as well. While some things are not "your fault" there are some things that you will have to deal with because this is your relationship for better or for worse. What you each do, or do not do, will affect each other.

If marriage is supposed to represent Christ and the Church then we all have work to do. We do not believe that the job of looking like Christ lies solely to the man or being the Church is just for the woman. It is the beauty of sacrifice, unity and order that we are striving for.

When a wife is truly her husband's helper and gives him support, love and encouragement she emphasizes building trust. When a husband defends his wife, listens to her concerns and remains faithful he has built and strengthened their relationship.

Being one is physical and mental. Knowing your spouse is key to this oneness. Take the time to learn your mate in both ways! Then eventually, you will find yourself saying what they say and doing what they do and vice versa. Decision-making becomes easier, parenting is better and oneness happens over time. It's a God-thing!

In marriage we redefine ourselves as we get closer together, then people begin to identify us as a team, a unit. It helps to do things together, be seen together, refer to each other often and let everyone know that your spouse's opinion needs to be consulted before making decisions. Although these ideas seem to be old-fashioned, they work to bring you closer together and increase the longevity of your relationship.

We are certainly not pros at this, but the more you seek to be one, the more people see you that way. The more people see you that way, the more you look like Christ and the Church - one Body.




 

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  1. Donna RobertSeptember 7, 2021 at 12:27 AM

    The worst time has passed”However, it is true that there are more improvements than before...because of the rising numbers of people living with HIV in the state of Nevada. How could they stigmatize all of them? Therefore everything becomes a little easier and we start to share everything... We also started to invite and visit each other in a community. You know, it is six years since I started taking antiretroviral drugs...Yet whatever problems I face, the worst time has passedWhen I was evicted from the family home by my mother, my father rented a small room for me. But my mother and brothers believed that having HIV was my own fault – and that I deserved to be punished...I also considered myself unworthy and without hope... But I have a child and eventually I convinced myself to live for my child’s sake.
    My mother knew nothing [about HIV]. She didn’t understand anything. Do you know why? She didn’t have [the chance] to go out of the house and communicate with society. However, my father does interact with the community. I know his friends are mature and dignified africa america. So he has a better understanding than her.My father came call me on a sadfull day sitting on my couch about a friend of his from africa who introduce him to Dr Itua herbal  cure in africa in which he advise we should purchase his herbal medicine to cure my hiv so we did and Dr Itua prescribed I should drink the herbal medicine for two weeks to cure although we were so curious about the whole thing ,I finished the herbal medicine like he advised then he talked to me to visit my nearest clinic for check up I did and now I'm totally cured from Hiv my father was my rock and I and my family are now happy together also Dr Itua has be helpful in my community ever since he cure my Hiv so why I'm leaving  my story on here today is to reach out someone out here to hope on God and never give up no matter the situation you that you are facing especially through this pandemic seasons which has really taught us all on how we should be helpful to each other and cherish one another.Dr Itua cures the following diseases.....  Herpes,Liver cancer,Throat cancerLeukemia.,Alzheimer's disease,Chronic Diarrhea,Copd,Parkinson,Als,Adrenocortical carcinoma  Infectious mononucleosis.
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    1. Walking TogetherOctober 10, 2021 at 5:50 PM

      It's true what you said "...never give up no matter the situation you that you are facing especially through this pandemic seasons which has really taught us all on how we should be helpful to each other and cherish one another". Cherish every moment you have with your spouse. Maurice's cancer taught us that. God is a healer whether it is your physical body or your spiritual condition. Marriage in sickness and in health should be grounded in faith in a God that is bigger and stronger than both of us.

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