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Praise in Marital Transitions: Stepping into 5787 Together

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Welcome to September 2026! As we cross the threshold into the new Hebrew year 5787, we enter the Month of Covenant Faithfulness . Anchored by the royal tribe of Judah (Praise) and the steadfast legacy of Ruth , God calls us to step into new seasons with deliberate worship . Anita had a major life-changing surgery that physically transformed her. She is about six weeks post-recuperation and it greatly impacted our marriage for the better. We became more grateful to God, and more dependent on each other.  Life transitions—whether career shifts, empty nests, or new seasons of ministry—can shake our sense of routine. Yet, when we enthrone Jesus through praise, our transitions become divine transformations. “The sceptre shall not depart from Judah...” (Genesis 49:10a, KJV) . Let us praise our way into 5787 together. We thank God for a successful recovery with no complications as we have been given another chance to rejoice in God's goodness as a couple! Crossing Thresholds into 5787 E...
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  Sometimes, you need to refresh your spouse with a much-needed apology. As summer reaches its peak heat, daily pressure can cause tension to simmer beneath the surface of a marriage. It's true that the hotter you are, the hotter tempers can be! August's spiritual call to reflection and repentance provides a divine opportunity to cool off . Instead of letting built-up frustration scorch your covenant, let us blow off the steam and step into God's refreshing grace. “Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord;” (Acts 3:19, KJV).                                                              Blowing Off the Built-Up Steam We have each held on to our anger for too long and ended up being the one to say "I'...
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The Grace Pause for a Stable Marriage

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June 2026 was our 25th Anniversary Month!!  Busy summer schedules and sudden irritations can easily cause our marital dynamics to fluctuate. God calls us to step off the emotional rollercoaster and plant our feet on solid ground. “Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable...” (1 Corinthians 15:58a, KJV). Let us explore how to transition from reactionary feelings to unwavering covenant consistency this month. After many years of bumping heads, we now try to implement what we call, "The Grace Pause"... The Trap of Fleeting Feelings It is all too easy to let fleeting moods dictate how we treat our spouse (especially for women during that time of the month). When we allow daily stressors, fatigue, or minor frustrations to control our tone and attitude, we fall into the trap of instability. Our emotions become as unpredictable as changing tides, shaking the security of our home. Marriage cannot thrive when it is anchored to something as shifting as human feelings...
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Guarding the Gates: Family Stability in a Digital World

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While scripture warns against being "unstable as water," it calls us to build an unshakeable foundation . In today's noisy world, maintaining marital and family stability requires us to be active gatekeepers. We cannot allow the chaotic currents of society to slip into our homes unnoticed. “Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable...” (1 Corinthians 15:58a, KJV). Let us explore how to guard our family camp’s alignment and protect our household's peace this summer . The Danger of Outside Alignment A study of the wives of Dathan and Abiram with Anita's Wifestyle Image Network, warns us against aligning with rebellion and discontent . A stable marriage thrives when a husband and wife protect their unified front, refusing to let toxic outside influences sow seeds of discord . Both of you must discern and then decide to keep your marriage and household safe from sin - little fozes that spoil vines. Guard your covenant against gossip, worldly advice, ...
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Can't Forgive them? Three decluttering ideas...

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  We’ve all been there. You open a closet that’s been neglected all winter, take one look at the clutter, and want to close the door immediately and walk away. Spring cleaning takes effort. It requires us to look at what we’ve accumulated, decide what no longer serves us, and do the heavy lifting of clearing it out. But as we stand on the edge of summer, I want to step away from our physical spaces for a moment and look at a different kind of clutter. Couples deal with a lot of emotional "dust" in the corners of their marriage, including us. We are approaching twenty-five years of marriage and it's not by accident. If we aren't careful, we carry the residual weight of old misunderstandings into a busy new season. To enter summer with a light, joyful heart, we need a simple but powerful tool of everyday diplomacy: Forgiveness. When Offenses Gather Dust In diplomacy, we talk about "frozen conflicts"—issues that sit beneath the surface, unresolved, blocking any...
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The Marriage Covenant as a Diplomatic Mission

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                                                           H.E. Dr. Anita Mckaney In my work as a Peace Ambassador and Chaplain, I often find myself discussing the nuances of international relations and the high-stakes world of diplomacy. We think of diplomacy as something that happens in marble halls or at large roundtables between nations. But as I reflect on the beauty of "walking together towards God," I am reminded that the most important diplomatic mission we will ever lead is the one that takes place within the four walls of our own homes. Recently on our mission trip to Ghana through The Titus Ten Foundation program, my husband and I had the opportunity to walk royal residential halls in a historic monument to African freedom. After the amazing tour and history lesson, we had the distinct opportunity to sign our names as a testamen...
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Peril and Peace: A Lesson from Mr & Mrs Manoah

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A Lesson from Mr & Mrs. Manoah In the landscape of biblical marriages, we often look to Abraham and Sarah for faith, or Aquila and Priscilla for ministry. But hidden in the hill country of Zorah, within the Tribe of Dan, lies a powerful dynamic of partnership between a man named Manoah and his wife. ​They were tasked with birthing a deliverer (Samson) during a time of oppression. Their story teaches us a vital lesson about how couples handle the weight of a heavy assignment. ​1. The Discerning Wife (The Eye) ​It is fascinating that the Angel of the Lord did not appear to Manoah first; He appeared to the wife. She was the spiritual "antenna" of the union. When the Angel spoke the impossible promise of a son, she didn't argue. She immediately recognized the divine nature of the encounter. ​For the Wives: Sometimes, you will sense the shift before your husband does. You may receive the "download" while he is still at work. Your role is not to usurp him, but to ...
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