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God is > Our Hearts: How NOT to be emotionally driven

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God is greater than our hearts. he should be at the center of all we do if we claim to belong to Him. I learned this the hard way.



When I first started dating, I was consistently led by my emotions. He was cute. I was cute. We would make a cute couple. We could get married, make cute babies, have lots of grandchildren, etc.. My heart would lead me down this whole trail of possibilities without caring about if it was the Lord's will for my life or not. Add hormones and you have a set-up for disaster!

During one relationship prior to marriage, I was so emotionally attached that I lost hours and hours of sleep waiting for this guy to call me. Then I would fall asleep on him because I was afraid that I would miss something he said. Everyday was spent obsessing over our next date, next phone call or text message. I couldn't concentrate. I didn't read my bible daily anymore and if I did, I would cut it short because my mind and my heart belonged to this guy who didn't even e…

How to Talk to Teens about Sex, Marriage and Relationships

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We play a lot of games in our home. With two boys growing quickly into men, we find ourselves working hard to keep the lines of communication open. Games are a great way to do that for us. We have been surprised at how often they will ask the most amazing questions. We have come to realize that games provide a fantastic opportunity to impart wisdom and character into the lives of our children (while we still have the chance). 
There are two brands that we would like to recommend to your family. Harvest Time Partners (Harvesttimepartners.com) and Breakout Games (breakoutgames.com). They both offer various unique and fun games. They encourage group play, conversation and thinking skills that are crucial for young people to develop as they mature into adulthood. 


Video games, online games, board games and ANY game is a great way to spark conversation, but the other way is just as easy and it's FREE!
The second way to talk to your teens about marriage and other things is simply to ta…

How We Cancelled Debt and Built our House in 5 Years

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We had college degrees and a heap of debt when we got married. We were living on love in our one-bedroom apartment in the city. We had taken no financial courses or seminars and were trying to live by God's principles. We understood that it was important to save, give, reap and sow. Here is the story of how we went from debt to homeowners.


In July 2001, we were married. Maurice had already rented our apartment and I had started my first nursing job. With one income we survived for almost nine months when Maurice finally landed a great job in his field. Our first lesson was that we were ONE. I didn't plan on being the breadwinner, but my husband had saved enough prior to our wedding so that our financial life would not depend solely on me while he searched for the right opportunity.

KEY POINTS:

* Save lots of money before you get married (for AFTER the wedding and honeymoon). Do not go broke or in major debt for this one-time event. Focus more on the marriage than the wedding f…

Selfcare IS Caring for your Marriage

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In our first few years of marriage, I was all in! I was fully ready to sacrifice for my husband. From bending over backwards to make him healthy meals to being available in the evening for marital intimacy. Nothing was too much, too hard or too physically taxing. My view of that Proverbs 31 woman was perfection and I was happy to do all and be all for him. After all, loving him was easy because he truly loved me as Christ loved the church in my mind. Nothing could be better.

Until I burnt out.

Ask yourself:
When did I last take a nap?
Am I having too many negative thoughts?
Do I have a healthy relationship with God myself apart from my spouse?
Is my body needing attention that I have been ignoring?
Am I actually hurting emotionally?
When did I last have a really fun time?
Are there habits that are controlling me instead of me controlling them?
What pain am I experiencing?

There is such thing as wife burnout. When we burden ourselves with even more than God Himself has commanded, we pu…

Building marriages with Date Night In Box!

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We were so excited to be gifted our first date box from Date Night In!! Ours was a date night in faith box too! It is so fabulous when people recognize the beauty of marriage and encouraging that union and that is exactly what this box did for us!

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The box topic was FOUNDATION. It came with straws, candy lego blocks, jelly bellies, sticky popsicle sticks and instructions. We had three projects to complete together. We also had an amazing pre-prepared playlist to listen to as we worked together. Our favorite song was Winter Wonderland by Earth, Wind and Fire!




Project #1 - Build a candle-holder from the popsicle sticks provided and place the candle in it.

Project #2 - Build a foundation or structure to support the box that the date came in.

Project #3 - Build a tower to support one jellybelly on top and then place it on top.

This was no easy feat for us! First of all it was madly tempting to eat all the …

Protecting your Peace in 3 ways

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In this world of turmoil, confusion and fighting, protecting one's peace is so important. Peace of mind, a peaceful spirit and a peaceful home are priceless.

As I have been meditating on peace this month, I have settled on three big ways that I plan to protect my peace. Perhaps you will find them helpful as well.



First, listen to your body. Secondly, listen to the Holy Spirit. Lastly, listen to wise mentors.

Listen to your body.
Recently, a friend of mine became very upset when she discovered that some medical diagnostic testing revealed that things were at dangerously unhealthy levels. Maybe you can relate.

By ignoring the little nudges for exercise, sleep, eating right and a good healthy balance physically, we put ourselves at risk to experience unrest for our bodies.

Self-care is biblical (especially of you are married). Our bodoes are on loan to us. We need to be good stewards of what God has given us.

Listen to the Holy Spirit
If you have ever been close to God, then you know w…

When you Fast and Pray

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Have you ever fasted and prayed? Have you ever fasted and prayed for your relationship? The weekend before our wedding, Anita fasted and prayed to make sure that this was a God idea and not just a good idea.

Fasting is a good spiritual discipline. It helps to quiet the flesh and its desires and awaken us spiritually to the voice of God. By ignoring the craving for food and replacing it with the Word of God, we train ourselves to fully rely on the Lord instead of ourselves.

It is usually good to fast for a specific purpose or reason. When you need an answer from God regarding a specific problem or when you are fighting any spiritual battle, fasting is a good idea.

Fasting is not optional for disciples of Jesus Christ. Combining prayer with fasting is a biblical way to move mountains!



Here are some examples.

When fighting things in the flesh like indulging in sweets, watching too much tv or lying, you may want to tailor your fast for those vices. In addition to withholding food, stay aw…