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One Married Life to Live

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 September was a very rough month for our family. With everyone getting covid, including one of us ending up in the ICU, there was little time to keep updated in posting on the blog. But in every situation, we always look to hear for what God is saying. This past month, God reminds us that there is only one married life to live.  Ephesians 5: 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman,' for she was taken out of man." 24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife , and they become one flesh . Marriage is until death do us part. When illness happens, it reminds us how frail we are and how precious life is. It also reminds us that these relationships are temporary and most important above all others. We experience it together, as one. When one is hurting so is the other. When one is

Fostering Oneness in Marriage

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Your marriage matters. How you represent yourself as a couple to others is important. Sometimes you may forget that you are a unit with your spouse. They are an extension of you and vice versa. When you mess up this reflects on them, when they do, it is yours to own as well. While some things are not "your fault" there are some things that you will have to deal with because this is your relationship for better or for worse. What you each do, or do not do, will affect each other. If marriage is supposed to represent Christ and the Church then we all have work to do. We do not believe that the job of looking like Christ lies solely to the man or being the Church is just for the woman. It is the beauty of sacrifice, unity and order that we are striving for. When a wife is truly her husband's helper and gives him support, love and encouragement she emphasizes building trust. When a husband defends his wife, listens to her concerns and remains faithful he has built and strengt

Happy Anniversary!

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 We made it! Today is the day that we celebrate TWENTY years of marriage! Despite the statistics we still love, honor and cherish... Here are a few pics of our weekend celebration: Anniversary card and "Blessed" glasses set Date at Hyde Park Just Us enjoying each other Our 20th Anniversary shirts We STILL do! Church in the parking lot with my mom Another Date at the Movies  Date foodie pics, lol We are stuck together no matter what, lol!

How to get the Meat out of a Sermon

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 All the good people tell us to go to church and get the Word. However, most do not disciple you how to hear from God when you go to church, how to maximize the message that you are hearing and what to do during the week. If that is you, here are some ideas AND a way to help you to remember them! First, pray before you go and ask God to open your heart and mind to what He has for you. Many times a Pastor will share the Word and we tend to think of how others could benefit from what is being said instead of concentrating on what the Lord may be trying to tell us. Ask God to give you focus and to really give you what you need in that moment. Thank Him for it in advance like a meal that you love and know it is coming. Set your expectations high. Next, come prepared to receive God's message to you. One way to do this is to ask God to forgive you of all of your sin (even thoughts that do not please Him) so that, like preparing for a meal, you are "hungry" for the Word. (Psalm

Self-Care in Marriage

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As a wife, I am not the best at caring for myself. In American culture, if you sacrifice yourself for work then you are esteemed more valuable. However, it is not true. People are praised for being tried, exhausted, mentally drained and very busy, but no one praises the person who takes a long vacation to connect with family or seeks psychological or financial help in areas of weakness.  Take care of your body. Exercise is a form of self-care. I recently decided that I would join a fitness club so that I could get the support I needed to move my body (since I sit a lot) and to strengthen my joints as I get older (40s club problems :) It was worth it. Now, I look forward to feeling good and having my regular workout even if it is only once a week for now. I also suggest checking your insurance for all your benefits. More than likely you are not using everything that you are paying for. For example, this week I called my benefits person and found out that I have 90 chiropractic visits in

Sexuality in Marriage

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There are a lot of buzzwords going around about sexuality right now. Not only homosexuality (same gender sex), but MSP (mutiple sex partners) which may be male or female. There is talk of being attracted to either gender (polyamorosity) and not so much about monogamy in marriage anymore. Then there are the topics of adultery, fornication, masturbation and sin in general.  We want to be clear about where we stand and what the Bible has to say about such topics. Instead of trying to define these things out and explain our position, we will let the scriptures speak for themselves. According to the Holy Bible: Romans 1:24-32 Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves:  25 Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. 26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natu

Intimately Us

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 Life is busy. It is also very familiar with your same spouse. Anyone who has been married over a yearcould attest that newness is welcome in marriage to keep things.....well, fresh! Enter Intimately Us. This is an amazing app for married christian couples. I have never seen a app that you can literally "share" with your spouse. After you sync your account to theirs, you can add your likes, dislikes, wishes and dreams, and the app sends messages and suggestions to your spouse for you!  It has a calendar to track your dating habits and intimate times together, fun games to play and daily challenges as well as reminders and ideas. Want education? You can watch videos and hear from their sexperts and all about healthy sexuality and open communication between you and your spouse. There are sections about overcoming difficulties and emotional stress in marriage too! There is also a flirty chat app within the app called "Just Between Us" where you can send special texts t