Walking Together Towards God

Love is a choice. You do not fall into it. It is a verb because love requires action. Those actions are big and small - from giving roses to saying "I do".  The word LOVE is used so casually that it has begun to lose its significance. Love is not sex. Unfortunately, people love their spouses in the same way they love their sports teams. There needs to be a difference. What is that difference?  Jesus makes the difference in how we love. Greater love has no man than this: That a man lay down his life for a friend. Your spouse is your friend and one that you give up your entire single life for. That is why marriage vows are until death.  Christ gave up his life for His Church as an example to us. It is no longer about "me" but about "we". Love is something that we both DO for each other and it requires sacrifice and commitment. Let's strive to keep our spouse's love tanks full by doing the same things that won them in the first place. Then let's a...

Wishing a Happy Birthday to our now 18 year-old son!   Train up  a child in the  way  he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

The term mastermind is the popular phrase now to get information and direct access from an industry expert in record time. They are bursts of quality expertise in a crash course to propel you to success in whatever field you are investing in. The question we propose is - What would a Marriage Mastermind look like? The best of the best would offer their strategic and time-tested remedies for every imaginable marriage dilemma. Perhaps there would be an offer to improve your marriage within a certain timeframe guaranteed or you and your spouse's money back. This mastermind might include a book, course or several sessions aimed at the most common painpoints that most couples experience. This actually sounds great, but maybe a tad unrealistic. Marriage is not a "one size fits all" relationship project. It is complex, dynamic and involves much more work than a mere marriage mastermind solution. Ironically however, there is a mastermind behind the idea of marriage. Its author is...

Fear of marriage is beginning to be a real thing. Some people are scared to say "I do", others are experiencing other real fears in their marriage. Here are the top three reasons why there is fear to marry, as well as three scriptures to dispel fear. 1. Many say "T here is no need to be married to express love to a significant other". I have heard people who use this argument say that marriage is just a peice of paper. However, love is an action word. We need to display our love to another by what we do. Commitment of a man to a woman is how God has encouraged us through His word to do that. 2. Not knowing how to be married or never seeing a successful marriage is another reason for fear. Why try if majority of marriages fail or end in divorce? We should try because the Word of God already lets us know that marriage is a blessing for many reasons including emotionally, physically and financially just to name a few. 3. Being married previously to "the wrong pe...

 To our faithful readers, you already know that Anita had to take the lead on writing this. So here it is. EATING If you are like Maurice and I, that means that you are a bonafide "foodie". We love most foods. What is a foodie? A foodie is someone who loves food more than anything else in the world. A foodie is someone who can tell the difference between a brie and a camembert, a pinot noir and a merlot, a sushi and a sashimi, white tea versus red. A foodie is someone who travels the world in search of new flavors, new cuisines, new experiences. A foodie is typically someone who lives to eat, not eats to live. But we don't go that far, lol! Food is important to culture and society and dare we say to marriage as well? Food is more than just nourishment for our bodies. Food is a way of expressing ourselves, our identities, our values, our beliefs. Food is a way of connecting with others, of sharing stories, of creating memories. Food is a way of celebrating life, of honorin...

Spring is a time of renewal and growth, and it can also be a time to refresh your marriage. After many years together (like us), you and your spouse may have fallen into a routine that feels dull and boring. But you can spice things up by trying some new things and reconnecting with each other on a deeper level. Here are some ideas to freshen up your marriage in the season of spring: Go on a picnic. Pack some sandwiches, fruits, and drinks, and head to a nearby park or garden. Enjoy the fresh air and the beauty of nature. You can also bring a blanket and cuddle under the sun. Talk about your dreams, your hopes, and your feelings. Remember why you fell in love in the first place. We love picnics, parks, trails and the great outdoors. Read the Song of Solomon together. This book of the Bible is full of passionate and poetic expressions of love between a husband and a wife. It celebrates the intimacy and joy of marriage. You can read it aloud to each other, or take turns reading a verse a...

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Many people subscribe to the idea of time spent apart while married is healthy while others suggest that being seen together more is better for the relationship. Let's look at the pluses and minuses of both! Being Apart Does absence make the heart grow fonder really? Taking some time away from your spouse can be refreshing and give one a sense of relief from the norm. It has become a more common thing for spouses to have a girls or guys night out or even a weekend, or a whole week. Absence makes the heart grow fonder right? There is a great sense of relief to step out of the norm and spend some time with others besides your husband or wife. Most people do not think of this time as a vacation from their family but rather a time to get refreshed and bring their best selves back to their families. The demands of home can be daunting and feel overwhelming. So having someone else cook for a change, or being able to really binge your favorite sport with the guys can be exhilarating for a...

Marriage is a bed of roses - with thorns. All the pricks, passions and perfumes are enough to attract people to it, but then few stay despite it all. A couple of wives and I wrote a book recently depicting our initial episodes of "falling in love", having difficulty in marriage and how its aroma stays fresh after many years. I was excited to participate, but wondered what I could share. Sometimes writing comes naturally for me, and other times, not so much. I really prayed about what to share and how to make it relevant for readers - the wives that would be looking forward to gleaning from my so-called wisdom after 21 years of being married to the same guy. Today my shipment of books arrived! I finally re-read what I wrote in the book and I am confident that God is glorified. I was encouraged by the words that the Holy Spirit had me pen in this particular book on marriage. Not only is there sharing of my personal experiences as a wife, but great takeaways that convicted me TO...

  Happy New Year to all our Readers! We took a hiatus to focus on us, our marriage and family. We had to make some major adjustments, relocate some family members and pray through more medical issues. Yet, the Lord has continued to bless our marriage through it all. Today, let's share about interruptions. Life starts off pretty good at the start of a New Year, but then your plans, agenda and calendar may take an alternate path than what you intended. You and your spouse together need to be prepared. When life gets interrupted from your usual marriage routine, you have to do three things that we have found to be helpful. We have to acknowledge the change, see what scripture has to say about about it and then decide together what our next course of action will be. Most any decision can be made that way. Acknowledge the Change Some changes are very obvious while others are barely noticeable. It is when the changes begin to encroach on life that we identify them. Ignoring them is never...