Marriage Fears

Fear of marriage is beginning to be a real thing. Some people are scared to say "I do", others are experiencing other real fears in their marriage.

Here are the top three reasons why there is fear to marry, as well as three scriptures to dispel fear.

1. Many say "There is no need to be married to express love to a significant other". I have heard people who use this argument say that marriage is just a peice of paper. However, love is an action word. We need to display our love to another by what we do. Commitment of a man to a woman is how God has encouraged us through His word to do that.

2. Not knowing how to be married or never seeing a successful marriage is another reason for fear. Why try if majority of marriages fail or end in divorce? We should try because the Word of God already lets us know that marriage is a blessing for many reasons including emotionally, physically and financially just to name a few.

3. Being married previously to "the wrong person" can be a discouragement. Someone may believe that marriage cannot work, or that it cannot work for them. Although it is true that many marriages fail or end in divorce, that it not a good reason to not take the risk. 

What God joins together can stay together if we include Him.

First, marriage is not a commandment. You do not need to marry to please God. Most people marry because they actually want to be. They want a life partner, to have children and to be loved. None of those are bad reasons to commit your life to someone else. The fact is, that the bigger issue is the fear behind your decision. Let's look at some scripture to help us.

1. Perfect love casts out fear. Fear is tormenting. (1 John 4:18) The spirit of fear is an unrelentless torturer of the mind and will paralyze you into never wanting to get married. It must be cast out and replaced with God's unrelenting love.

2. God has not given us the spirit of fear but of power and of love and of a sound mind. (2 Timothy 1:7) Understand that all things are from God or from the enemy. Fear is from the enemy only. If you have it, you need to recognize

3. Have not I commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, the the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go. (Joshua 1:9) Marriage takes courage and strength. It is not for the faint of heart and you need God to have a healthy marriage.


Now let's address some different marriage fears:

Fear of your spouse - The Lord is my light and my salvation, whom shall I fear. The Lord is the strength of my Life; of whom shall I be afraid? (Psalm 27:1) The Lord says that we shoud fear no one but God. If you are afraid of your mate, that is not of God. Decide to allow the Lord to control your mind and ask Him to help you to surrender all fear to Him. 

Fear of divorce - Therefore they are no more twain but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man put asunder. (Matthew 19:6) Sometimes separations and divorce happen and it is never God's ideal plan. He brought woman to man to be a helpmeet and it was good. Not being together would be bad. To be anxious about divorce is to be anxious about something that has not happened. It is worry and God commands us not to worry about tomorrow. Exercise your faith by applying this scripture to your heart. What God puts together, He can hold together.


Fear has torment. It is a battle of the mind to keep you in captivity. Ask God to relieve all fear and to relinquish its power of you. It is False Evidence Appearing Real. Be filled with Faith instead in Jesus name!

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